Abanye abantu etafuleni lewayini abakwazi ukuphuza izingilazi eziyinkulungwane, futhi abanye abantu bangadakwa ngemva kweyodwa nje. Ukuphuza, ungabi nandaba nenani elikhulu noma elincane, yazi ukuzitika ngakho, ujabulele ubumnandi kuyinhlonipho enkulu yokuphila.
“Ukudakwa” kwenza abangane babe nothando.
Njengoba isisho sisho, “izinkomishi eziyinkulungwane zewayini azivamile lapho uhlangana nomngane wesifuba.” Kuyisibusiso esikhulu ukuhlangana nomngani omkhulu etafuleni lewayini. Lapho ningenanto yokwenza, mema abangani ngababili ngababili, nihlale ngasemgwaqweni, niphuze etafuleni, nixoxe ngezindaba zomkhaya, futhi nixoxe ngokuphila.
Zitike ngalesi sikhathi sokungcebeleka nabangani bakho, awudingi amagama amaningi, ukubuka nje futhi abangani bakho bazokuqonda. Zonke izinto ezingathi shu ekuphileni, ukukhungatheka emsebenzini, nokungakwazi ukuzisiza ekuphileni konke kusengilazini yewayini.
"Ukuphuza" kwenza ukunambitheka kwedolobha lasekhaya kube mnandi kakhulu.
Ikhaya isiqondiso sasekhaya; iwayini ukunambitheka kwedolobha lasekhaya. Isifunda ngasinye sinewayini laso elikhethekile nokudla okukhethekile. Minyaka yonke ohambweni lokubuya phakathi noMkhosi Wasentwasahlobo, abazali bahlala behlohla ibhokisi eligcwele izinto zezingane zabo, okuhlanganisa iwayini nemifino. Kubantu abazulazulayo abalokhu bezulazula ngaphandle unyaka wonke, ukudla ukudla okugcwele kwedolobha lasekhaya nokuphuza iwayini lasekhaya kuyinduduzo enkulu ekuphileni.
Uma kufika uMkhosi waseNtwasahlobo ngonyaka ozayo, abazulazula abavela kuwo wonke umhlaba babuyela emakhaya. Umqondo womndeni wabantu baseShayina, izimiso zokuziphatha kanye nothando lomndeni konke kuqukethwe engilazini yewayini, ethathe izinkulungwane zeminyaka futhi iye yadluliselwa kuze kube namuhla.
“Ukudakwa” kwenza uthando olusenhliziyweni lube nothando.
Awazi ukuthi ubani okuthandayo uze ugule, futhi awazi ukuthi ubani othanda uma udakiwe. Nakuba kuyihlaya, akukhona ngaphandle kwesizathu. Uyakhumbula uhlanya ngothando ngemva kokuphuza, nobuhlungu obusenhlizweni yakho uma ucabanga ngaleyo TA ngemva kokuphuza?
Kukhona umunyu nobumnandi othandweni. Lapho sisezinhlungwini zothando, sihlala sicabanga ngewayini. Utshwala bunohlobo lwamandla omlingo, okuvumela abantu ukuba babaleke okwesikhashana ikheji leqiniso, babuyele kumuntu futhi bafinyelele ngqo enhliziyweni yasekuqaleni. Ngemva kokudakwa, engivame ukungakucabangi noma ukukusho, lokho engididekile ngokoqobo futhi engingakwazi ukukubona ngokucacile, kucace kakhulu okwamanje. Abantu badakiwe, kodwa inhliziyo iphapheme.
Izihlakaniphi zasendulo ziwumzwangedwa, yilabo abaphuzayo kuphela abagcina amagama abo. Izazi nezihlakaniphi zifana nabantu abavamile njengathi, eziphuza iwayini, ezikhulula ukukhathazeka kwazo, futhi ezikubeka ezinhliziyweni zazo imizwa. Yiphuze uma ujabule, iphuze lapho uphoxekile, iphuze lapho uthukuthele, iphuze uma sehlukana, futhi iphuze lapho usuhlangene.
Kunzima ngabantu abahlale bengadakiwe ukwazisa ubuhle obucashile empilweni. Abantu okufanele badakwe "badakiwe" futhi bayakwazi ukujabulela ukuphila nokuzwa imizwelo phakathi kwabantu.
Isiphuzo esincane simnandi, kodwa isidakwa esikhulu silimaza umzimba. Utshwala buyinto enhle, kodwa musa ukuhaha.
Isikhathi sokuthumela: Jan-29-2023